We’re led to believe that we live in a world of two trains of sexual thought, the homosexual and the heterosexual and people can be one, the other or move between as they choose. That being said, as a single man who enjoys sex, why is there a thrill attached to idea of conversion? I mean, in the 21st Century, are we really existing in an age where people feel the need to be entirely committed to one path or the other?
I recently slept with the University friend of one of my friends. He is your average 22 year old guy, who’s slept with his fair share of women and, personally, I’ve never seen his attraction to the homosexual before. So you can imagine my surprise when, out of the blue on our mutual friend’s birthday night out, he starts holding my hand in the taxi on the way home. The sex happened, and it was mediocre at best, but it happened and the next day the obvious conversation with our mutual friend occurred.
Now there’s one thing you need to know about our shared friend, she’s a gay magnet. Every male best friend she’s had in her life has ended up coming out to her. The conversation soon turned to whether there was a thrill or not involved in getting with someone who, in the past, had been exclusively straight. She told me that one of her other gay best friends had informed her that he’s exclusive to “straight” guys as he gets off on the adrenaline rush. Personally, I experienced a bit of an added pleasure but I put that down to the fact that I have always been somewhat attracted to the guy and so was quite happy to be getting what I thought could only ever be a fantasy.
When I next spoke to the guy, he wanted to put the experience down to the stereotypical university experimentation… I, personally, did not believe that for one second. I think he had forgotten that, in the midst of the first make out session, he had admitted to kissing boys before and wanting to do stuff with them but always being nervous. Therefore, I did not accept for one second that this was a one off experimentation. But then it hit me… Why did he feel the need to justify his actions to me? I wasn’t bothered, our mutual friends weren’t bothered and considering we’re not famous, the general public certainly were not bothered, so it was definitely reaffirming his heterosexuality to himself. My advice to him, accept it. We’re living in an age where more and more people have kissed, fondled or slept with someone of the same sex and it’s becoming less and less of an experiment and more of a leisure activity. I say bye to the two lanes of the road and moving between! Do what you want people! As Eleanor Roosevelt once said ‘No one can make you feel inferior without your consent’, so stop believing that if you “experiment” with someone of the same sex, you’re inferior. Enjoy the experience!